How To Choose a Sympathy Gift

A 5 step guide to choosing a sympathy gift for a funeral.It can be a challenging task, but here are some tips that can help you choose the best gift:

1. Consider the relationship with the deceased: 

Choose a gift that reflects your relationship with the deceased. For example, if you were a close friend or family member, you may want to choose a more personal gift. If you are a coworker or distant family member than you might have a difficult time choosing a personalized gift. It is important to focus on the memories you have with the deceased. 

2. Think about the recipient

Consider the person who will receive the gift, such as the family member of the deceased or the person organizing the funeral. You may want to choose a gift that will provide comfort during a difficult time. Humor can heal. A funny personal story about a memory you shared along your gift could bring light during a difficult time. Celebrate the life of the deceased with the recipient you care about.

3. Choose a budget friendly gift

Choose a gift that is thoughtful and in your budget. This shows you are thinking of the recipient during this difficult time with what you can afford. For example, you may want to consider a personalized keepsake or a gift that honors the memory of the deceased. However, there are many gifts at different price points. A creative gift might be a dedicated park bench, tree, garden, scholarship, or a free volunteer community event dedicated to a cause the deceased cared deeply about. Do not let money prevent you from showing that you care.

4. Consider the practicality of the gift

Consider whether the gift will be practical and useful to the recipient. For example, you may want to consider a gift that provides comfort or relaxation, such as a book or a candle. A warm meal and a home cleaning service can be helpful when grieving. 

5. Respect cultural or religious beliefs

Be mindful of cultural or religious beliefs when choosing a gift. For example, some cultures may not appreciate flowers or certain types of gifts. If you are not sure, it is better to ask first. Contact the person receiving the gift or the family to learn what they need most. They might not need another casserole dish or you might learn they have a serious food allergy.

Some examples of sympathy gifts include:

  • flowers or memorial tree
  • memorial donation to a charity or free volunteer community event
  • photo album or frame
  • personalized or engraved keepsake
  • book of poetry or prayers
  • sympathy card
  • sympathy basket of comfort foods or self-care items. 

Ultimately, the best sympathy gift is one that comes from the heart and shows that you care.

If this seems like a lot of questions but you are not able to speak with the family or friends, we are available to guide you. Contact the Holder Wells on site staff. We will be able to help with any of our current funeral services.